On my post about my top 5 struggles of blogging, I said one of them was self doubt. It’s something everyone experiences, no matter what your job/hobby is. The lovely Kim from SimplyLovebirds suggested that I write a post on how to deal with self doubt as a blogger, and that’s exactly what I’m going to share with you!
Self doubt for me as a blogger comes in waves. There are some periods of time where I’m confident in what I’m creating. And there are other periods where all that fills my head is doubt. So just know that even with these tips self doubt is normal, and there will be times where you experience it. I hope these tips and advice help you be more confident in your blogging!
As a blogger it can be discouraging to not have anyone, or very few people read your content. This leads to us thinking too much about how if what we are creating is really important/valuable. When you get into this mindset you have to stop and think of the big picture. There are 7 billion people in the world. That’s 7 billion people with different thoughts, beliefs, and interests. There are people out there who will love your blog and what you are creating. You just have to be patient and find them.
One of the things all bloggers do is read other bloggers blogs, either to connect, get some interesting tips, or just because you love their content. But with this also comes that annoying thing called comparison. It’s a natural human thing to compare things, but if you have a blog keep in mind how utterly boring it would be if everyone created the same exact thing. Now that doesn’t mean that posts won’t be about similar topics, places, or clothes, but being original and unique is a good thing. It does come with doubt, and questioning, but remember in the long run it will be worth it.
You have to get in the mindset as a blogger that when someone else’s blog is succeeding, it doesn’t take anything away from yours. Instead of sitting around questioning your blog, use it as motivation! Become inspired that you can be at that point some day, and use it to fuel you. A lot of what helps with doubt is changing your overall outlook.
Remember that like everything in life all good things take time. Nothing that was ever worth it came easy, and sometimes the things that take more time are more rewarding. Your blog will get to where it’s going over time, so enjoy creating new content and worry less!
All of this worrying about whether what you’re creating is good, or if it’s actually important, is all in your head. Next time you start picking every little thing apart, take a moment to breathe. Remember that you control how you look at things and all of these doubts are just in your head.
Growing up I was a bit of a perfectionist. I would want things to be “perfect”, or what I thought perfect was. It got so bad that at one point I had to have all of my hair gelled to my head because fly aways were not perfect. The best thing that every came out of this part of my life was the advice my mom gave me. She said “Kara, sometimes good is good enough”. So if you have a post that you think the photos could be better, or if you added more words it would be perfect- remember this. Tell yourself that if you’re proud of it and it’s good, then it’s good enough.
At the end of the day no one is going to motivate or encourage you the way you do. Sometimes in life you have to be your own biggest cheerleader. Whether that’s telling yourself the content you’re creating is great, or motivating yourself to put it out there. Cheer yourself on. Tell yourself that you’ve got this, that you can do anything you put your mind to. Eventually this will become reality. I would also suggest checking out the book “You Are A Bada**: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero. I found this book to be so helpful that I made notes in my phone for certain chapters as a reminder.
And those are my tips for how to deal with that thing called self doubt as a blogger. Just remember these thing, and that if you never create anything because you doubt yourself, you’ll never create anything in your life. And is it really worth it to let the fear win?
Let me know how you have experienced and dealt with self doubt, both as a blogger or not!
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