After reading a few self help/motivation books at the end of 2016, I made it a goal of mine to start thinking more positive in 2017. And as cheesy at it may sound, this past year has been one of the best for me yet. It’s not because anything drastic or overly excited happened from one year to the next, but changing the way I think made a big difference. Now this won’t happen overnight, and there are still plenty of days where I feel unmotivated, sad, and not too positive. But I thought I would share with you some of my tips on how to think more positive and change your overall mindset.
The first thing you have to accept is that it is 100% okay to have bad days. In fact you should have bad days, anxious days, days where you’re not sure how you feel. It’s important that you acknowledge your emotions and accept them. Not everything in life is going to be perfect or positive, but it helps you appreciate the good more. So as odd as it sounds, you have to accept the bad for the positive to come.
As I talked about in the beginning of the post, a big help for me thinking more positive was reading some self help/motivation books. There are so many out there, so do some research and find a few that fit what you are looking for. The one that I loved and really helped me was ‘You Are A Bada**: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero. It is written in bit sized chapters that cover a wide variety of topics, and I loved it so much I made notes in my phone of parts of the book so I can look back on them. The reason why I love these kinds of books and recommend you read some is because you always have something to look back on when you need some help.
It’s important in life to put things into perspective. At the time of something occurring it may seem like it is the biggest thing in the world. But it’s important to put those moments into perspective. If something happens, ask yourself the golden question – “will this matter in a week? A month? A year? Will I even remember it?”. Don’t let things sit in your mind and take over everything you think of. Now that doesn’t mean there won’t be big things that will sit in your mind, but try to always do this to the smaller things that happen.
How I often put things into perspective besides asking myself the golden question, is to assess the level of importance. I often ask myself “Am I alive?”, “Are my family and the people I love okay?”, “Am I okay mentally?”, “Do I have the basic things I need in life?”. If all of that is yes, then I remind myself that I will be okay and it can’t get much better than that. It’s also important that when putting things into perspective you don’t compare them to others. There will always be people who are going through something worse than you, but that doesn’t mean what you’re experiencing isn’t valid.
We get into the habit of putting ourselves down in our minds and we don’t even realize it. When we make a mistake we think “I’m terrible at this” or “why can’t I ever do anything right”, but instead try thinking “I’m learning” or “I’m growing”. Instead of getting upset at yourself, try to think and remember that you’re only human and it’s okay to fail or make mistakes. If you change the way you think about yourself in your mind, you’ll have a more positive outlook.
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And those are a few of my tips to help you start thinking more positive. Just remember that like everything in life it takes time, so be kind to yourself.